There are many men and women who suffer from the bad habit of sometimes cursing their children, etc, out of anger and grief. Remember that in the court of Allah Ta’ala there are certain moments of acceptance during which all du’aas are answered. Hence, at times due to foolishness and stupidity, the children are cursed out of anger, and when the effect of that curse comes upon the children and lands them into a calamity, the parents go around crying, not even realizing that they themselves had asked for this calamity through their curse. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has prohibited us from cursing ourselves, our children, wealth, servants, etc, as it is possible that this curse will coincide with a moment of acceptance. One should exercise even more care in the month of Ramadhaan as the entire month is a period in which du‘aas are accepted. It is thus extremely important to avoid cursing in this month. (Fazaail-e-A’amaal [urdu], Fazaail-e-Ramadhaan pg. 22)
A few leading personalities had once come to Hazrat Shaikh Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) with the aim of seeking advice from him regarding the various efforts that could be implemented in trying to improve the situation in Baytul Muqaddas and Palestine. The advice that Hazrat Shaikh (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) gave them was such that it contains guidance for all Muslims at large. An extremely pertinent portion of Hazrat Shaikh (rahmatullahi ‘alaih)’s advice has been reproduced below:
“Wherever calamities and tragedies of this nature occur in the world, then there is no Muslim who does not feel distressed and grieved over what is transpiring. However, at the same time, there is no denying that everything that is happening is a result of nothing but our own actions. You are all well acquainted and abreast with the news. Who can deny the enmity that the disbelievers have for Islam? Their ridiculing Islam and spreading corruption and immorality in the world, their adopting all means to eliminate and exterminate Islam from the face of this earth, and every other effort that is taking place against Islam is now going on for some time in the Arab lands. In these trying circumstances, where the world is against Islam, if one has to ponder and reflect, one will realize that it is only the infinite grace and mercy of Allah Ta’ala that allows us to continue. Otherwise, the amount of transgression and sins that the Muslims are involved in warrants His divine punishment.
Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’aan Majeed:
Whatever misfortune befalls you is because of what your hands have earned, and for many (of them) He grants forgiveness.
Dua is indeed very important, and to neglect making dua is a means of great loss and deprivation. Even when it outwardly seems as if our dua is not being answered, we should not lose courage and hope. It is reported in the Hadith that, in answering our duas, Allah Ta’ala looks at our own good and welfare. If the thing we ask for is beneficial and good for us, Allah Ta’ala grants it to us. If the thing we ask for is not beneficial and good for us, Allah Ta’ala does not grant it to us. Actually, it is Allah Ta’ala's favour upon us that we do not always get what we ask for, because at times, due to our lack of understanding, we beg for things that are not beneficial for us. (Fazaail-e-A’amaal [urdu], Fazaail-e-Ramadhaan pg. 22)
My beloved friends! Express submission before Allah Ta’ala, (that Being who has complete control over everything), and everything will become submissive and obedient to you. The incident of the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) is well known, where they were once in the jungles of Africa and they needed to pitch their tents and encamp. However, the jungle was such that it was filled with various wild animals and harmful creatures. Hence, Hazrat Uqbah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu), who was the leader of the army, took a few Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) with him and went to a certain place. He then addressed the animals and announced saying, “O insects and animals! We are a group of the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam)! We wish to stay here and you should thus depart. After this announcement, if we find any animal around this area, we will kill it.” After this announcement was made, the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) witnessed the animals depart while carrying their young in total submission and obedience before the command of the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum). (Suhbat Baa Awliyaa pg. 88)
My beloved friends! Life and death is something over which there is no guarantee. Remember the advice I wish to share with you! My advice to you is that you should strive to the best of your ability to emulate the Mubaarak Sunnah of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaiho wasallam). The second advice which I wish to give you is that you should endeavour to establish khaanqas and halqas of zikr in your localities. Encourage people to engage in zikr and teach them Deen. Do not wait for people to come to you to learn Deen or to acquire self-reformation. In this era, you will have to adopt all means in trying to win people and attract them towards Deen. (Malfoozaate Hazrat Shaikh 2/142)