Sunnats and Aadaab of the Upbringing of Children – Part 5

24. When spending on one’s family (wife and children), then one should have hope in receiving reward from Allah Ta’ala for spending on them. If one spends in the halaal way and has hope in receiving reward from Allah Ta’ala, then he will receive the reward of sadaqah for spending upon them.

عن أبي مسعود عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: إذا أنفق الرجل على أهله يحتسبها فهو له صدقة (صحيح البخاري، الرقم: 55)

Hazrat Abu Mas’ood (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “When a man spends upon his family, hoping to receive reward from Allah Ta‘ala, then it (the spending) will be a means of him acquiring the reward of sadaqah.”

25. It is the mubaarak teaching of Shari’ah that when a boy or girl reaches the age of marriage and a suitable match is found, then they should not delay in getting married. Delaying in performing the nikaah leads to many fitnahs taking place. Hence, the parents should ensure that they guide their children in regard to choosing the correct spouse for marriage.

عن أبي هريرة قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه، إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد عريض. (سنن الترمذي، الرقم: 1084)

Hazrat Abu Hurairah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “If a boy whose Deen and character are pleasing to you proposes for your daughter, then you should get your daughter married to him. If you do not do so (i.e. you do not get her married or you delay in getting her married to the boy who proposed), then widespread corruption will occur in the land.”

عن علي بن أبي طالب، أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال له: يا علي، ثلاث لا تؤخرها: الصلاة إذا آنت، والجنازة إذا حضرت، والأيم إذا وجدت لها كفؤا. (سنن الترمذي، الرقم: 171)

Hazrat Ali (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) once said to him, “O Ali! Do not delay in three things. Salaah when its time sets in, Janaazah Salaah when the bier is present and the nikaah of an unmarried girl when you find a compatible partner for her.”