In this world everything goes well if it is in correct proportion. If the tyres in a car are inflated in correct proportion, then the car will move smoothly. Accordingly, if all the vitamins in the body are well-balanced then one will enjoy a good quality of life, otherwise one’s health will suffer and life will be difficult. By the same token, you are in a marital life and you want it to continue well. So the proportion of attachment and affinity needs to be right between the people that you have in your life. If you do not give quality time to your wife and instead you give more time to work then this will cause instability and your life will be rocky. Moulana Thanwi (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) used to say that the fight between the husband and wife is the root of all fights.
Source: Al-Haadi