Sunnats and Aadaab which every person needs to adhere to in his individual life – 2

4. One should ensure that he performs his five daily salaah on their prescribed times. Men should perform all their salaah in the musjid with jamaat and women should perform their salaah at home.

عن عبد الله ابن مسعود أنه كان يقول: من سره أن يلقى الله عز وجل غدا مسلما فليحافظ على هؤلاء الصلوات الخمس حيث ينادى بهن فإن الله عز وجل شرع لنبيه صلى الله عليه وسلم سنن الهدى وإنهن من سنن الهدى وإني لا أحسب منكم أحدا إلا له مسجد يصلي فيه في بيته فلو صليتم في بيوتكم وتركتم مساجدكم لتركتم سنة نبيكم ولو تركتم سنة نبيكم لضللتم

Hazrat Abdullah bin Mas’ood (radhiyallahu anhu) would say, “Whoever wishes to meet Allah Ta’ala tomorrow (i.e. on the Day of Qiyaamah) as a Muslim, he should guard his five daily salaah through performing them at a place where the azaan is called out (i.e. the musjid). Allah has prescribed for His Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) Sunan-e-Huda (such acts of worship which are guidance for you through and through), and verily these (i.e. performing the fardh salaah in the musjid) are from the Sunan-e-Huda (i.e. the prescribed acts of worship in Deen). I do not know of any of you who does not have an area in his home reserved for performing (nafl) salaah. If you perform the fardh salaah in your homes and abandon your musjids, you will be discarding the emphasized sunnah of your Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam), and as soon as you will abandon his sunnah, you will certainly go astray.”

عن عبد الله بن سويد الأنصاري عن عمته أم حميد امرأة أبي حميد الساعدي أنها جاءت الى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقالت: يا رسول الله إني أحب الصلاة معك قال: قد علمت أنك تحبين الصلاة معي وصلاتك في بيتك خير من صلاتك في حجرتك وصلاتك في حجرتك خير من صلاتك في دارك وصلاتك في دارك خير من صلاتك في مسجد قومك وصلاتك في مسجد قومك خير من صلاتك في مسجدي قال: فأمرت فبني لها مسجد في أقصى شيء من بيتها وأظلمه وكانت تصلي فيه حتى لقيت الله جل وعلا (صحيح ابن حبان، الرقم: 2217)

Hazrat Ummu Humaid (radhiyallahu anha), the wife of Hazrat Abu Humaid As-Saa’idi (radhiyallahu anhu), once came to Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) and said, “O Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam), I long to perform salaah behind you.” Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) replied, “I am aware that you long and desire to perform salaah behind me. However, your salaah in the inner portion of your bedroom is more rewarding than your salaah in your bedroom. Your salaah in your bedroom is more rewarding than your salaah in any other part of your home. Your salaah in your home is more rewarding than your salaah in the musjid of your locality. Your salaah in the musjid of your locality is more rewarding than your salaah in my musjid (i.e. Musjid Nabawi).” Hazrat Ummu Humaid (radhiyallahu anha) (in obedience and compliance with the mubaarak desire of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam)) instructed that a small place be reserved for her salaah in the innermost and darkest portion of her bedroom, and she would devotedly perform all her salaah there until the end of her life.

5. At all times, one should conduct with hayaa. Hayaa refers to conducting with shame and respect. Hence, in one’s dressing and attire and one’s physical appearance (beard, hair, etc.) one should ensure that one conforms to shariah. Similarly, when interacting with people, one should conduct with shame and respect.

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه، عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: الإيمان بضع وستون شعبة، والحياء شعبة من الإيمان (صحيح البخاري، الرقم: 9)

Hazrat Abu Hurairah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “Imaan consists of over sixty branches, and Hayaa is an integral branch of Imaan.”

عن ابن عباس قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: إن لكل دين خلقا وخلق الإسلام الحياء (سنن ابن ماجة، الرقم: 4181)

Hazrat Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “Every religion has a distinguishing characteristic, and the distinguishing characteristic of Islam is hayaa.”

6. One should be respectful, kind and compassionate towards one’s parents when dealing with them. When speaking to them, one should be humble in one’s approach and speak to them with words of kindness and respect. At all times, one should try and keep their hearts happy. If they are old and require his service, then he should go out of his way to take good care of them and keep them comfortable.

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلٰهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا ﴿الإسراء: ٢٣﴾

“Your Rabb has ordained that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind towards your parents. If any one of them or both of them reach old age, do not say to them, “Uff (a word or expression of anger or irritation)”, and do not scold them, and address them with respectful words.”

عن ابن عباس قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: من أصبح مطيعا لله في والديه أصبح له بابان مفتوحان من الجنة وإن كان واحدا فواحدا ومن أمسى عاصيا لله في والديه أصبح له بابان مفتوحان من النار وإن كان واحدا فواحدا قال رجل وإن ظلماه قال وإن ظلماه وإن ظلماه وإن ظلماه (شعب الإيمان، الرقم: 7538)

Hazrat Ibnu Abbaas (radhiyallahu ‘anhuma) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “Whoever spends his day obeying Allah Ta’ala with regard to his parents, then every morning, two doors of Jannah will be open for him. If he only has one parent alive then only one door will be opened for him. Whoever spends his day disobeying Allah Ta’ala with regard to his parents then two doors of Jahannum will be open for him. If he only has one parent alive then only one door will be opened for him.” The Sahaabi asked, “Even if they oppress you (i.e. should you still be kind towards them)?”  Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) replied, “Even if they oppress you! Even if they oppress you! Even if they oppress you! (you should still be kind towards them).”

عن عبد الله بن عمرو عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: رضى الرب في رضى الوالد وسخط الرب في سخط الوالد (سنن الترمذي، الرقم: 1899)

Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr (radhiyallahu ‘anhuma) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “The pleasure of Allah Ta’ala lies in the pleasure of the father (and the mother as her rank is higher than the father), and the displeasure of Allah Ta’ala lies in the displeasure of the father (and mother).”

عن أبي أمامة أن رجلا قال: يا رسول الله ما حق الوالدين على ولدهما قال: هما جنتك ونارك (سنن ابن ماجه، الرقم: 3662)

Hazrat Abu Umaamah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that a certain Sahaabi asked, “O Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), what rights do parents have over their children?”  Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) replied, “They are either your (means of entering) Jannah or your (means of entering) Jahannum.”