An extremely important advice in regard to dealing with wives is that one should avoid adopting a hard approach with one’s wife. Rather, always adopt a soft approach with the wife and continue to encourage her in deeni matters. Conduct daily ta’leem from Fazaa’il-e-A’maal and Fazaa’il-e-Sadaqaat with the wife and family, and if you hear stories of the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) or the pious, you should relate it to your family at home. Insha Allah, this will prove extremely beneficial for their guidance.
(Qutbul Aqtaab Hazrat Sheikhul Hadith Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) pg. 423-424)