{"id":19618,"date":"2022-08-03T16:57:57","date_gmt":"2022-08-03T14:57:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ihyaauddeen.co.za\/?p=19618"},"modified":"2025-02-05T11:17:44","modified_gmt":"2025-02-05T09:17:44","slug":"preferring-others-to-ourselves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ihyaauddeen.co.za\/?p=19618","title":{"rendered":"Preferring Others to Ourselves"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-19621\" src=\"https:\/\/ihyaauddeen.co.za\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/welcome.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"600\" height=\"401\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ihyaauddeen.co.za\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/welcome.webp 600w, https:\/\/ihyaauddeen.co.za\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/welcome-190x127.webp 190w, https:\/\/ihyaauddeen.co.za\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/welcome-300x201.webp 300w, https:\/\/ihyaauddeen.co.za\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/welcome-110x75.webp 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/p>\n        <style>\n            #h5vp69f0a5d3379ea {  width: 100%; }#h5vp69f0a5d3379ea .pdp_plyr_area {  width: 100%; }        <\/style>\n        <div id=\"h5vp69f0a5d3379ea\" class=\"pdp-wrapper pdp_initializer pdp_wrapper_default light\" data-settings=\"{&quot;options&quot;:{&quot;controls&quot;:[&quot;play&quot;,&quot;progress&quot;,&quot;current-time&quot;,&quot;mute&quot;,&quot;volume&quot;,&quot;settings&quot;,&quot;download&quot;],&quot;tooltips&quot;:{&quot;controls&quot;:true,&quot;seek&quot;:true},&quot;loop&quot;:{&quot;active&quot;:false}},&quot;infos&quot;:{&quot;share&quot;:false,&quot;shares&quot;:[&quot;facebook&quot;,&quot;linkedin&quot;,&quot;pinterest&quot;,&quot;stumbleupon&quot;,&quot;whatsapp&quot;,&quot;email&quot;],&quot;showCount&quot;:false,&quot;showLabel&quot;:false,&quot;skin&quot;:&quot;default&quot;}}\">\n                                <div id=\"\" class=\"row pdp-item pdf_player\">\n                                                <div class=\"pdp_plyr_area col-md-9\">\n                                                            <h3 title=\"Preferring Others to Ourselves\">Preferring Others to Ourselves<\/h3>\n                                                        <div class=\"audioWrapper\">\n                                <audio class=\"podcast\" playsinline>\n                                    <source src=\"https:\/\/ihyaauddeen.co.za\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/13_Preferring-Others-to-Ourselves.mp3\" type=\"audio\/mp3\" \/>\n                                    Your browser does not support the audio tag.\n                                <\/audio>\n                            <\/div>\n                            <div class=\"share\"><\/div>\n                        <\/div>\n                    <\/div>\n                    <\/div>\n\n<p>One day, a poor man came to Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) and asked for some food because he was very hungry and had nothing to eat. Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) wanted to help this man, so he sent a message to his respected wives, asking them whether they had any food at home which they could send for this man to eat. However, they all gave the same answer &#8211; they said, \u201cWe do not have anything besides water.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) then turned to the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhum) and asked them, \u201cWho will take this man home as his guest?\u201d On hearing this, Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu), immediately stood up and said, \u201cI will take him home as my guest!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) then took the man home as his guest. When he arrived at home, Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) told his wife, Hazrat Ummu Sulaim (radhiyallahu \u2018anha), that they should honour and feed the man he had brought home, as this man was sent to them as a guest by Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam). However, Hazrat Ummu Sulaim (radhiyallahu \u2018anha) replied that the food was very little, and was only enough for the children to eat. Since the children were not hungry at that time, Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) said to her, \u201cPrepare the food for the guest, and put the children to sleep.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Hazrat Ummu Sulaim (radhiyallahu \u2018anha) did as her husband told her. She prepared the food and put the children to sleep. However, there was one problem. The food was only enough for the guest to eat. If the guest saw that the food was so little, and that Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) was not eating, then he would feel shy to eat all the food and would not want to eat.<\/p>\n<p>Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) did not want this to happen. He wanted his guest to be comfortable and eat nicely. So, as the guest started to eat, they pretended to adjust the light, but actually put it off. In this way, they were in darkness.<\/p>\n<p>Because it was dark, the guest did not know that Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) did not have any food and was not eating. Rather, he thought that Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) was also eating, and so he felt comfortable and he ate until he was satisfied. As for Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) and his wife, Hazrat Ummu Sulaim (radhiyallahu \u2018anha), then they did not eat anything that night, and spent the night in hunger. However, they were happy, because they had honoured the guest which was sent to them by Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam).<\/p>\n<p>The next morning, Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) went to meet Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam). When Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) met him, Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) knew what had happened the previous night. Allah Ta\u2018ala had told Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) how Hazrat Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhu) and his wife had stayed hungry and given all their food to the guest to eat. Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) was very happy with them, and told them that Allah Ta\u2018ala was also happy at how they had fed the guest and given the guest preference over themselves.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, Allah Ta\u2018ala was so happy with them, that Allah Ta\u2018ala revealed verses in the Qur\u2019aan Majeed, praising them for their beautiful behaviour. Allah Ta\u2018ala said:<\/p>\n<p class=\"\" dir=\"RTL\" style=\"text-align: center; font-family: 'Traditional Arabic'; font-size: 16pt;\">\u0648\u064e\u064a\u064f\u0624\u0652\u062b\u0650\u0631\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0649\u0670 \u0623\u064e\u0646\u0641\u064f\u0633\u0650\u0647\u0650\u0645\u0652 \u0648\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0648\u0652 \u0643\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e \u0628\u0650\u0647\u0650\u0645\u0652 \u062e\u064e\u0635\u064e\u0627\u0635\u064e\u0629\u064c<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>And they give preference (to other people) over themselves, even if they are hungry. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Lessons:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>A Muslim should always be kind to people. A Muslim should not only worry about himself and his own comfort. Rather, he should worry about people as well. The Sahaabah (radhiyallahu \u2018anhum) were so kind that even if they had little food, they shared it with others, because they knew that this will please Allah Ta\u2018ala and will earn them tremendous reward in the Hereafter.<\/li>\n<li>Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) taught us that we should always honour our guests. If we have a guest at our home, then we must look after him, honour him and make sure that he is comfortable. The more we look after our guests, the more Allah Ta\u2018ala will bless us with barakah in our homes.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One day, a poor man came to Rasulullah (sallallahu \u2018alaihi wasallam) and asked for some food because he was very hungry and had nothing to eat. 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