1. When addressing your father, you should not call him by his name, rather you should use a title of love and respect such as Abba etc. عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه أنه أبصر رجلين، فقال لأحدهما: ما هذا منك؟ فقال: أبي، فقال: لا تسمه باسمه، ولا تمش أمامه، …
1. Always show respect to your elders from within your heart and outwardly regardless of whether they are your parents, teachers, family members etc. 2. Address your elders with respectable names or titles e.g. if the person is an aalim then call him with the title “Moulana”. If he is …
1. Meals should not be served at the home of the deceased to those who come for ta’ziyah. Serving meals at the home is an innovatory practice. 2. It is impermissible to hire a person to recite a portion of the Quraan Majeed and convey the reward to the deceased.
1. The Shari’ah has not specified any particular type or colour of clothing that should be worn by those that are bereaved. 2. The practice of visitors coming on the seventh day, tenth day and fortieth day for “khatam” etc. are innovations and should be discarded.
1. One should assist the bereaved by sending food to their home. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has taught the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) to express sympathies with the bereaved and assist them at the time of their grief and sorrow. Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) encouraged the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) to prepare …
1. Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) comforted the bereaved in the following manner: إِنَّ لِلَّهِ مَا أَخَذَ وَلَهُ مَا أَعْطَى وَكُلٌّ إِلَى أَجَلٍ مُسَمًّى فَلْتَصْبِرْ وَلْتَحْتَسِبْ To Allah Ta’ala alone belongs that which He takes, and to Him alone belongs that which He gives. Everything is until an appointed time (after …
1. It is makrooh for a person to make ta’ziyat for a second time when he has already made it before. 2. It is preferable to make ta’ziyat after the burial. However, it is permissible to make ta’ziyat before the burial. 3. If a person cannot present himself for ta’ziyat …
1.It is permissible to praise the deceased. However, when praising him, one should ensure that one does not exaggerate or praise him for characteristics that were not found in him. Similarly, one should not adopt the styles and ways of the kuffaar in praising him. 2.The period of ta’ziyat is …
1. One should not add to the sorrows of the family by making improper statements or asking improper questions such as enquiring from the close family members regarding the details of the final illness or circumstances of death. 2.One should express his grief and should not laugh and joke.
1. It is desirable for the family and friends of the deceased to comfort the relatives of the deceased. However the laws of purdah should be maintained between men and women at the time of ta’ziyat. 2. When making ta’ziyat, one should ensure that he does not cause any inconvenience …